PARENTING AND CHILDCARE KUALA LUMPUR– NEW CHALLENGES?
PARENTING AND CHILDCARE in Kuala Lumpur – NEW CHALLENGES?
We woke up this morning to news that there is a change in voting age. In our beloved country. Our children can start voting at 18 years of age, 3 years younger than before. Is this a new challenge to Parents? Just an opinion. It does not make a difference except that the number of eligible voters has increased. Parent’s responsibilities just continue in terms of preparing their children for better moral and emotional development, albeit to become a good corporate citizen. A good and qualified child care centre in partnership with parents take on the joint role to accomplish that vital character to be development in the child.
Parental Demands and Childcare in Kuala Lumpur
Parents nowadays demand for a good moral education and safety for their child. They obviously understand the rules well but whether they can play their role effectively. We have been speaking of safety so very often. Perhaps a look at our neighbor rather than just around Klang Valley could provide some valuable insights on parenting.
An excerpt from a recent on line news report:
SINGAPORE: Reading the news as a parent today can sometimes bring on a wave of panic attacks.
Particularly news involving attempted kidnapping, suspected kidnapping, tots falling into train gaps, or mistaken identities that could lead to your child being given away to a stranger at childcare centres.
Safety Should Not be Overlooked
A year ago when I was picking up my youngest child, I was informed by the kindergarten reception that he’d already been brought back by my helper. I immediately called home, only to be told she did not have him.
Even the best places are not immune to mishaps. The difference is in how these are handled.
In terms of our children’s care and physical well-being, no doubt we have to exercise vigilance as parents and rightly so. After all, they are at the stage when they cannot fend for themselves.
And most of us need time, observation and training before we feel comfortable enough to leave a young infant in the hands of a new helper or nanny.
Helicopter Parenting and Childcare Concerns
As adults, we take calculated risks all the time – when investing in a new financial product, buying your first home, or changing jobs. We typically rely on current information as well as past experiences and lessons to guide the choices we make.
We learn to trust our decision-making skills after experiencing some degree of success and confidence. We need to instil these same instincts into our kids.
Studies have uncovered the pitfalls of helicopter parenting.
Helicopter parents tend to be over-involved and demanding because they let fear drive their actions. They often intervene pre-emptively, giving the child little chance to try and accomplish something on their own.
Kids grow up less adaptive. Studies show that kids of helicopter parents they have poorer emotional and academic function, and decision-making skills.
We have to accept that kids will have new experiences without us parents. Instead of hovering around, we could impart knowledge of how to deal with these at all ages, whether our kids are three, seven or 15.
For example, in interacting with strangers, rather than adopting a blanket rule – no talking to strangers – we can couch it differently by saying: “When mummy is around, you can respond when a stranger says ‘hello’. When you are alone, you should find a trusted adult if a stranger approaches you.”
A Commentary on Childcare and Safety
The phrase “strangers will catch you” instils in children a fear that is grossly disproportionate with reality. It teaches them that the world is not to be trusted.
BALANCING RISKS WITH COACHING AND PRACTICE
My daughter is a fairly confident 10-year-old. Even so, she experiences some uncertainty when taking on new, somewhat risky, tasks.
When she enters Primary 5, we plan to train her to take public transport to school. News covering incidents of outrage of modesty on public transport can be hair-raising to read, but I think there is a middle ground between being alert and being paranoid.
We hope to arm her with a balanced view of the possible dangers, along with tips on how to protect herself, such as sitting beside a female passenger and avoiding a crowded bus.We’ll also be her chaperon for the first few times, before letting her go on her own.
Tackling something new is undoubtedly uncomfortable, nerve-wrecking even, but with the right information and emotional support, it can be an area of growth with profound impact on a child’s sense of self-belief.
Be Motivated by Growth, Not Fear – Child Care in Kuala Lumpur
Instead of allowing news of child-related crimes and incidents to fan our anxiety and lead us to coddle our children, we should focus on building resilience in our young and instilling in them the right instincts to deal with new situations.
Instead of ringfencing what they can or cannot do, a more productive approach may be to arm them with skills that can act as a protective shield, a more effective shelter to stress and adversity than anything the most loving parent can do or provide.
The keys to achieving this kind of resilience include developing caring relationships with trusted adults whom they know they can contact at the first sign of trouble, fostering a strong sense of autonomy and independence so that they know when to say no, and having an optimistic view of life so that they don’t let apprehension curb their freedom.
As parents, we set the tone for our kids by not letting irrational fears drive our decisions.
Forging Ahead with Childcare In Petaling Jaya and Kuala Lumpur
The Sun, 17th July 2019, page 8, published a timely article on ‘protecting children at care centres’. The government promised stricter laws, improvements in key areas and effective implementation of the Child Care Centre Act 1984. We are experiencing the ripple effect of the government changing the landscape, but like all things, Polka Dot Bear, as a responsible corporate citizen will sincerely endeavor to look at the positives. Finally we do see many opportunities to act responsibly and in accordance to good safety practices in close partnership with Parents. Together we succeed.
Thank you for reading or hearing this. Stay tuned.